The Divorced Parent’s Guide to Summer Vacations

Summer vacations should be a time for fun, adventure and relaxation. But divorced parents
know that they can also cause stress, tension, and conflict. Here are some tips to ease the burden and hopefully keep you out of court so that you can enjoy your time away with the kids.

TIP #1 Communication
Good communication between co-parents is key to successful summer plans. Discussing plans
early helps prevent conflicts. Agree on dates, destinations, and activities to ensure both parents
are on the same page and prioritize the child’s needs.

TIP #2 Document Everything
Put any agreed changes to custody, access, parenting time, and vacation in writing. This
documentation can prevent disputes and serve as evidence if needed. The easiest way to do this
is to communicate with your ex by e-mail and/or text message.

TIP #3 Minimal Disruption
Keeping a stable routine is important for children. Make sure vacation plans don’t disrupt their
usual schedule too much and set guidelines for staying in touch with the non-traveling parent.

TIP #4 Traveling Across Borders
If you are travelling outside of Ontario or internationally, remember that different places have
different custody rules. You might need the other parent's permission or a court order to take your child out of the country. Understanding these laws helps avoid legal issues.

TIP #5 Always be the Most Reasonable One
If the other parent breaks the agreed custody arrangement, try to resolve it amicably first.
Propose reasonable solutions in which each sides benefits and compromises in equal measure. If that doesn’t work, legal help might be needed. Document any violations and consult a lawyer for guidance. Legal remedies can enforce agreements and ensure the child’s best interests are
protected.

FOUR LIGHTS ADVOCACY LLP can help!
If you need legal guidance and representation to modify or enforce a custody order, reach out to
Four Lights Advocacy to speak with one of our experienced family lawyers. Contact us at
[email protected] or call us at (905)-605-5100.
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